How are you? It’s not the best moment of your life is it.

You might be feeling all the emotions. That’s ok. It’s a strange time for you.

One minute you feeling ok, the next full of anxiety.

And you are support to just brush it off and move on, and nail your CV, nail the interview, just get another job? It’s not easy at all. But. It’s possible to be ok. And it’s possible to make this a good thing to happen.

8 things to do if you have just been made redundant

1. It’s a shock. Embrace the shock. Don’t push through and pretend to be ok. Ask yourself how are you really feeling?

2. You can wallow for a little bit, give yourself a break. Do something nice for yourself today, just because.

3. Get a notebook and start writing everything that comes into your head. Everything.

4. Set yourself a set time of 15 minutes (minimum) everyday and ask yourself ‘what do I want to do’? Write down what comes up. But have no pressure to find the Right answer straight away.

5. Don’t jump into CV writing straight away. Instead write down all the best moments of your career so far. Take as long as it takes until you are done.

6. Think about what your ideal tomorrow would look like. If you woke up tomorrow and the best thing happened, what would it be?

7. Every morning list 3 things you are going to do before the end of the day. Tick them off every night.

8. Do one thing each day that makes you feel uncomfortable.

This could be an opportunity to start something new

When you get made redundant you go through a few stages as you process what has happened. It’s like the grief, loss and change curve all merged into one.

We call the stages the Five Steps (although it’s probably more like 25 emotions all in one day). The steps are Shock, Stuck, Slow Go, Unstuck and Thrive.

Everyone goes through these steps at a different pace, for different reasons. And each step can mean very different things for people. Shock can be expressed in many different ways, for example, worry, self-belief, anger even humour. Thrive is experienced in different ways, for example, happiness, fulfilment, safety or wealth and health.

If you give yourself some thinking time, even if its just 10 minutes a day over breakfast, you can start to ponder what you really want out of this situation.

Think about this question for a few minutes…

What would be the best thing that could happen for you right now?

What did you think of? ‘Winning lottery (is that really the best thing?), a change in career, an amazing opportunity abroad, a job closer to home, starting a new business.’

• Why is it the best thing that could happen?

• If your ideal scenario could happen tomorrow are you clear what that would be?

• Why is that the best thing?

Ask yourself why and get a deeper understanding of things you want to change or keep in your life. The things that are important to you.

Time to make losing your job the best thing to happen to you