#162 Why the most important goodbye you’ll ever say is to the relationship that kept you small with Elizabeth Aldana
#162 Why the most important goodbye you’ll ever say is to the relationship that kept you small with Elizabeth Aldana
"Start to not tolerate things, and the bigger things will become easier."
What if the hardest (and most transformative) endings in our lives are the ones we choose ourselves?
In this episode, I chat with Elizabeth Aldana, Breakup Artist, coach, and advocate for navigating change on your own terms.
Elizabeth shares her story of moving across the world from LA to Singapore in a whirlwind week, not because she had to, but because a part of her just wouldn’t tolerate staying still any longer. It was the first major “breakup” she initiated not just from a partner, but from her old patterns, relationships, and ways of seeing herself.
This conversation explores what it takes to recognise the little (and big) things you’re tolerating in life, how to build the muscle of choosing change, and why breakups aren’t just about romance, they’re about leaving behind people, places, and patterns that no longer fit.
So, if you’re teetering on the edge of a decision, feel stuck in old habits, and ready to open a new door, this conversation is for you.
What helped Elizabeth navigate change:
Soundtrack:
Rose Quartz by Toro y Moi
Book:
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert M. Pirsig
“Be aware of what you believe about the situation and the story you’re creating. It will impact which door opens next.” - Elizabeth Aldana
About Elizabeth Aldana
Elizabeth is a breakup coach and founder of the Breakup Artist. In her work, she helps people reframe their ends as beginnings, and realise that breakups are not confined to romantic connections. Whether it’s a relationship, career, identity, or pattern, breaking up with the old creates space for the new.
After navigating her own pivotal career and identity shifts, Elizabeth set out to destigmatise the word “breakup.” Now, she helps clients move through the grief, guilt, and paralysis of big life changes… Into something more honest and aligned.
Today, we’re going to talk with Elizabeth about why a breakup isn’t just an end, and why the most important goodbye you’ll ever say is to the relationship that kept you small.
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